I just learned about WHAT exactly my nervous system is (thanks ChatGPT) and WHY it's so important. As someone who struggled with mental health and abuse their whole life I'm pissed no one has brought this up before -- what good is healing if you're not healing your nervous system as well?! It definitely needs to be talked about more!
Vulnerability hangover!!! I’m glad to finally 1/ have a name for that state and 2/understand that it’s part of the whole process. Somehow, I never expected that setting a boundary would make me feel so bad and it made me question wether I was right for doing it.
I’ve set some strong boundaries this year, and I wish I’ve read that sooner.
Right!? I so agree with you, Marie-Louise. It took me a while (and plenty of therapy) to realise why I was feeling so icky about my boundary-setting. You're definitely right for setting kind, strong boundaries, and it's okay that you feel shitty for doing it. I'm with you 🧡
This piece settled something in me and gave me stomach gurgles (yay regulation!). Think my vulnerability hangover was lasting longer than I thought. Thank you for the reminder!
Putting boundaries is something that always scared me cause “what if I come off as rude?”. I am starting now and realizing people is more open to it than I thought :)
I hear this SO much, Francisite. But you’re right: people are definitely more open to it than we know. Hope your boundaries are giving you some space and softness 🧡
I just learned about WHAT exactly my nervous system is (thanks ChatGPT) and WHY it's so important. As someone who struggled with mental health and abuse their whole life I'm pissed no one has brought this up before -- what good is healing if you're not healing your nervous system as well?! It definitely needs to be talked about more!
I couldn’t agree more!!
It’s so frustrating that no one teaches us how to handle emotions 🥲
Couldn’t agree more. Why were we taught Pythagorean theorem and not emotions and taxes? Pah!
This part. Even after going to therapy for years, no one has ever mentioned my nervous system?! That’s insane.
Vulnerability hangover!!! I’m glad to finally 1/ have a name for that state and 2/understand that it’s part of the whole process. Somehow, I never expected that setting a boundary would make me feel so bad and it made me question wether I was right for doing it.
I’ve set some strong boundaries this year, and I wish I’ve read that sooner.
Right!? I so agree with you, Marie-Louise. It took me a while (and plenty of therapy) to realise why I was feeling so icky about my boundary-setting. You're definitely right for setting kind, strong boundaries, and it's okay that you feel shitty for doing it. I'm with you 🧡
This piece settled something in me and gave me stomach gurgles (yay regulation!). Think my vulnerability hangover was lasting longer than I thought. Thank you for the reminder!
Ooh yay for the stomach gurgles, Lisa! Glad this helped. The hangover can be intense. Thanks for reading and for your words 🧡
Putting boundaries is something that always scared me cause “what if I come off as rude?”. I am starting now and realizing people is more open to it than I thought :)
I hear this SO much, Francisite. But you’re right: people are definitely more open to it than we know. Hope your boundaries are giving you some space and softness 🧡